From my mind to your eyes.
Monday, 9 May 2011
If only she "touched me".
I have had the opportunity today to listen as my cousin in Canada told me about her visit to the doctors office. She had a concern and sought medical attention. Which was wise of her. She however left the doctors office with a prescription in hand and pretty much disappointed. The doctor gave her concern a quick glance but never examined her. What hit me like a brick was when she said " I would feel much better if the doctor would have touched it."
These words seem simple but it reminds me that patients have certain expectations of us. I know sometimes we may have seen a condition over and over and over, but if that person is not one of those many times then this could be a first for them. The patient could be terrified over what we think is simple. However, how do they know that?
I know in a jammed pack office where you see 40 plus patients a day it can be draining and frustrating. However, I think I will take this little message with me always. Stop for a second and see the patient as a person not just a diagnosis. I think reassurance is always part of the job.
I secretly wonder what my patients say about me....
Wednesday, 27 April 2011
Where is GOD?
And wonder if God’s up there
When I cry in bed at night
I wonder if he can hear
When I think of the homeless man
I wonder if God can see
Watching all children die
I wonder how it could be
How could he let his children suffer
In a world so full of grief
And why do we loose another love
To the hands and knife of a thief
When I hear of a battered wife
I wonder if God can feel
And when I hear of woman raped
I wonder if he’s for real
Then I see the sun rise each day
And hear the oceans sing
I feel the breeze hug me tight
While the tree praise their king
I see the blind man giving thanks
For the life that he can live
I hear of lame men performing wonders
With the joys that they can give
I hear the children laughing
And watch the flowers grow
I know of the poor whose happy
And then I come to know
That in this time that we’re alive
There will be laughter mixed with sadness
And when we sometimes fall and stumble
It is God who is there to catch us
For he knows that with out the grief
We often fail to see
That there are days of joy and smiles
And no burdens of worry
So with the pain we grow to hate
Comes with what we love
The wonderful mercies and grace of God
Who is always watching above
© Erica S. N. Cooper
Something from my archive of writing. It is so funny how in my time of stress and frustration I wonder how could I write this? I feel so far from GOD right now and it takes me about 6 or 7 years younger to give me encouragement. Talk about time travel.
Thursday, 21 April 2011
Defining Me?
I had a talk with someone today who, wanted some medical advice for a friend. I listened as I saw a troubled person whose life was defined by past events. For a moment while talking I felt as if I were a fly on the wall, listening in on a private conversation. In that moment I paused for a millisecond and said am I talking about me?
No one that I have met can give me the story of a fairy tale childhood, my childhood was no different. I have my share of emotional and mental scars, as well as rotting corpses and dried bones in my closet. Today I forced myself to step back away from my life and reevaluate it.
Why do I act the way I act? Why do I do the things that I do? Who in the world am I? This bout of introspection may surprise some, but for me this is almost ritualistic behavior. Since childhood I have been looking at my own life through a microscope and dissecting it apart to see what makes me tick.
I used to pride myself for my regular bouts of introspection. For me, those episodes proved to help me evaluate myself and not be a prisoner to life's events. However, for some time now I have just been so busy plodding along with my life, that I have forgotten to stop and reevaluate what I am doing.
As a result I have just fallen back into the trap of hide and block. This means I hide from the world with smiles, fall into an obsessive compulsive behavior and block out all persons and all forms of thought. I have simply allowed my previous scars to define me.
I hate being controlled even though the puppetmaster is my own mind. I know for some would stop right now and say this chick is crazy. I mean how weird is it to be fighting myself. Albeit seems insane I am engaged in my own civil war for control of my actions. I am seeking the ability for control of my own life. I refuse to let situations or circumstances, past or present define who I am. I will not be defined by pain, loss, failures, and oddly enough, not even successes. I will be who I want to be.
So as for the past defining me? I think I can define myself.
Sunday, 17 April 2011
A Mother's Love
Tonight I woke up after having slept for some 18 hours. I was painful, hungry and extremely disoriented. Despite all of that I quickly forgot my physical discomforts and became upset. I said to myself, "why did'nt mommy wake me??"
So I got out of bed, albeit a little bent over, to ask her myself. The house was dark and quiet but I went straight to her bed room, called her name and barged in. The bed was empty and the room remained dark. I closed the door and then proceeded to call my SiL's name and knocked on her room door. She opened it and I said where is everybody? She informed me her husband was at work and my mother was at church. (or so we assumed, since it is Sunday) I check my other brothers room and find out that he also was not home. Note this was around 7pm!
I rubbed my back to ease the pain, took some pain meds, drank some calories and lay back down and watched reruns of smallville.
I looked up at the clock and i was like oh boy time to post my pic. (365 days of shamise) I did that and my brother came home complaining of a cough. At this point it still did not register that it was after ten and my mother was not home as yet.
It was not until 11:04pm my sister in law said, " Is your mother sleeping?" I said "No, she is not in her room. I assumed she was at church. She did not pass my room door." Alarms went off! It was after 11 and my mother was not home from church!!!!
I quickly got on the phone. I called the church. The caretaker answered, he sounded full of sleep and said church was over a long time ago. I still assumed there was an evening service. I then called assistant pastor, she informed me that she was not sure of any other services tonight but we did not have one tonight. My beta blocked heart started pounding! I said she was going to a lenten tea and fashion show this afternoon but that should be long over! She said yes it is. So Rev'd R said she will make calls.
I then frantically searched my room for my mothers phone book. I kept telling my SiL about the little torn phone book. We looked in her bible all over her bed and we found nothing. I sat back down in my bed on the brink of tears and called my mothers phone for the 5th time!!!! Still no answer. I was like I dont have the numbers of any of her friends. What would I do?
I then got a call from Rev'd R, who told me that there was a play by one of our sister churches. I said thanks Ill call people who go there. Only person I knew who goes to that church is my Aunt. Guess what? I did not have her number! I then searched my mothers room again, this time I was trying to think. I found a phone book and spoke to my Aunt who said she saw my mom at church, but she left 1/2 an hour ago before the play ended.
The next thing I did was go down the list and started calling people who mommy might have went with! I got an answering machine. I called Rev'd R back, and while on the phone I hear my sis in law rowing. Then I heard my mothers voice. I told Rev'd R she was home and I was gonna fuss her out now.
The long and short of it is that Mommy told my SiL or maybe she thought she did several days ago what she was gonna do today. I was never told anything. I then gave her the speech! "How dare you leave this house and no one in the house knows where you are going? We dont have telephone numbers of any of your friends. You are not allowed to leave this house unless at least two people know where you are going at the time!!!!"
Ok lets go back two paces! Yes I am the daughter, and yes I was talking to my mother! In that moment, my chest ached as I imagined a world with out my mother. I suddenly started itching all over and had this intense heat consume me. I started sweating and even shaking a bit just imagining all the horrors that could have befalled my mother in this day and age. I then said Thank You GOD.
So really even though I titled this blog, ' A Mother's Love', it really is about a daughters love. However, if it were not for the love my mother has given me through the years, I doubt there would have been much love coming from this daughter. I am happy mommy is in her bed all safe and sound.
There is no other love in this world like a mother's love. That may be true, but I think a daughters love comes very close!
Friday, 15 April 2011
So far so good? Nope! So far no good!!!
Thursday, 14 April 2011
Apprehension.....
Wednesday, 13 April 2011
Entering my Mind
The thing is as a teenager I was so much more active physically, mentally, spritually and socially. I wrote poetry, short stories, I drew(with both left and right hand) , I was active in at least 5 clubs simultaneously, I was a common fixture at church, I went to the childrens home, home for the aged and even went to the redcross as community helper. Oh yeah and I had to go to school as well and study. Today I go to work and I come home. Thats it; NO other life in between.
I have alot of thoughts, and ideas, that I would love to share with others. I have often said I will start a blog. I however, have not been pretty successful in that venture. So today I opened up an account and I will try to blog something every day.
So welcome to my mind. I promise it will be a bumpy ride at times; I am far from having it all up there! :)